How Long the Sex should Last? What an Average Woman Wishes?

If it is about sex, reality and expectations may stand on two contradictory ends of the scale. There’s a huge difference between what’s expected and what one actually experiences. One of the recent researches related to how long a sex session lasts is an ideal example of this.

According to a survey conducted by, a popular UK-based dating website, 3,836 men and women were asked the number of minutes they wanted sex to go on. The time period was not about foreplay, but just the main occurrence.

What Women Want?

On average, women conveyed that an ideal sex session must go for around 25 minutes and 51 seconds. On the other hand, men on average desired their ideal romp to run for around 25 minutes and 43 seconds! However, the identical numbers could not match the reality of the activity that occurs in the bedroom. In reality, the survey revealed that sex lasted for around 16 minutes.

Also, these results were categorized on the basis of the country. For instance, in the United States, both men and women stayed in the game for around 17 minutes and 5 seconds. On the other hand, Canadians stood second by staying on for 17 minutes. The British ranked third by staying in the game for a minute and few seconds less (16 minutes and 58 seconds).

This survey also revealed that men in their 30s were observed to grind the longest. These men showed
better track records as compared to their older and younger counterparts.

Sex is not just intercourse. It is also not about the time period you allot to the entire process arousing each other mentally and physically. Most sex therapists believe that sex can also mean lots of foreplay, touching, watching porn together, and sharing fantasies, replaying kinky scenes and much more. Getting fully aroused is one of the major requirements for achieving orgasm quicker.

Too Quick or Too Slow?

As per a study conducted in the year 2008 the Journal of Sexual Medicine, a number of sex therapists revealed intercourse that lasted around 1-2 minutes was too short. On the other hand the intercourse that lasted for around 3-7 minutes was considered adequate. Lastly, the process that lasted anywhere between 7-13 minutes was the most sought after or desirable. If the process lasts for 10-30 minutes, it is too long and may not be desirable.

Another study conducted four years back in 2004 by the Journal of Sex Research, intercourse that included foreplay was considered. During the study, people indulged in 11-13 minutes of foreplay. This was followed by an intercourse lasting for 7-8 minutes. However, in this case, the participants preferred sex to last for more.

Experts believe that the length of sex is a variable goal. In some cases, couples wish to have a quickie. However, in some cases, it is acceptable to enjoy really intense lovemaking that’s really fun and adventurous. The length of sex is affected by the kind of sex you wish to have. Stressing about timing can take quite longer.

Ideally, sex must last long enough for both partners to attain mutual pleasure (orgasm). Any kind of anxiety during the process can deter pleasure and delay.


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