9 Questions You should Ask Yourself Before Having a Threesome

Have you and your partner been thinking about introducing a third party into your bedroom? Great! Sexual acts of any kind between two consensual adults are considered fair. If the idea of having a threesome is exciting to you, it is time to go for it. However, before you actually jump into it. Make sure you ask yourself the following questions before having a threesome to avoid complications later:

1. Will it impact your present relationship?

Threesomes, even if badly wanted will have an impact on your present relationship with a partner. However, it needs to be a positive impact. If not, then it may potentially ruin your relationship. It may create unwanted ineptness and strain.

2. Did you discuss limits?

This is important if you are having a threesome for the first time. You and your partner must agree on what is expected with the threesome and whatever the gender of the third participant is. Everything from kissing, touching and other limits should be discussed beforehand.

3. Do you know the order of the big “O”?

With a threesome, you need to make sure everyone is involved all through the process. The timing of the orgasms for all participants should occur very near each other. Most importantly, the final “O” must be with the significant other.

4. Did you really agree on the third participant?

Are you dealing with the pressure? Will you be able to keep both happy at the same time? It is always better to avoid choosing close friends as the third member of fun. The best options are dance clubs and dating websites. Here, you can locate the ideal third partner.

5. Where and when?

You need to be sure of this. So finalize and agree on a specific location and date prior to proceeding. These things work best if planned head of time.

6. Why threesome?

Do you really want to do this? What’s the reason behind this decision? Was it you or your partner who brought up this idea? Are you both comfortable with it? Are you feeling pressured to please your partner? Are you trying to save your relationship? Doing something under pressure will leave you with nothing but regrets, later on. You need to remember that there is a right and a wrong reason to have a threesome.
The right reason probably is sharing the pleasure with your partner. It is the sexual connection between the two of you and an effort towards adding some spark to it. On the other hand, the wrong way to have one is because you are not satisfied with your partner and you don’t want to break up. Bringing another person into the relationship as you are more attracted to them can be dangerous.

7. Ready for the Efforts?

It will take a lot of time and efforts. You need to take several things into considerations. Right from knowing whether the third likes you and your partner to whether you and your partner are attracted to the third, to the type of alliance the three of you want, there are a number of crucial check boxes you need to look for. You guys may also want to get tested for STIs. The idea is to be prepared for what’s in store.

8. Are you seriously cool watching your partner have sex with someone else?

Threesomes may ruin relationships forever! In case, either of you can’t stand the third person, just drop the idea. Threesome is definitely not for you if you get pissed off easily when your boyfriend/girlfriend praises someone else on social media. Are you possessive about him or her? Under these circumstances, it is possible that you may pent up aggression, regret or anger. So, threesome is a total no-no.

9. Do you plan to interact with the third ever again?

This may be a little awkward. Making the third one a friend of yours can complicate things beyond repair. Hiring a professional or doing it with someone who you would never meet again will certainly help. A professional knows better how to make the situation feel comfortable for both of you.

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